When Two Carries Meet

CarrieI always considered myself lucky. I had the group of friends everyone hopes to have in their twenties. I had my Samantha — Jayme, who is older than me and isn’t afraid to give it to me straight when I need it; Charlotte — Gabrielle, who always strives to be perfect and accomplishes just that in the most adorable way; Miranda — Lauren, who moves to Brooklyn (I mean Kansas) for her husband and child, but is still down for a girls-night-in with wine and movies. I thought I had the group; that I didn’t need anyone else because we all completed the famously longed by 20-somethings everywhere Sex and the City foursome.

Then I met Katie.

I went to an interview for a job, that found me after I had spent weeks applying for jobs and interviewing with no outcome. This job, on the opposite coast from my family and friends, ended up bringing me to someone who I don’t know how I lived without knowing this long. I knew before my first day that we would get along just from social media, but I didn’t realize how close we would end up being. I found not only an extraordinary mentor in her, but also a fiercely loyal friend.

A short three and a half weeks later, Katie is moving to NYC. We shared an office, and then a cubicle. We shared an adoration for SATC, Sarah Jessica Parker, Cameron Diaz and Beyonce. We shared a love for fun hair colors, a passion for content and a desire to move to the Big Apple one day. Most importantly, we shared Carrie Bradshaw.

Everything that happened to us in these last few weeks, we had a quote for. There was always an episode or a scene we referenced. Our minds work the same way. We have the same ideas, we agree on everything, we want the same things out of life.

We are the two Carries from two different groups of friends who just so happened to find each other. I thought the unique force of the four girls was unbreakable and empowering. But now I know that when two Carries meet, they can conquer the world. 

When two Carries meet it is an inexplicable moment in time when you’ve found the girlfriend who is meant to run free with you. And now, she is moving to New York City, and I couldn’t be more proud of her ambition, fearlessness and sense of adventure. Though I will miss her terribly, and I feel our time together at work was cut way too short, I know that she is doing the right thing. And I can only hope that I, too, can be the Carrie I always thought I was and follow her in her footsteps one day.


And with that, because everything happens for a reason, our favorite of all the SATC quotes:

“Maybe mistakes are what make our fate. Without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn’t fall in love, have babies, or be who we are. After all, things change, so do cities. People come into your life and they go. But it’s comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart. And if you’re very lucky, a plane ride away.”


Excuse me, can I go to the bathroom?


In my newsfeed the other day, the above quote, stuck out at me like a sore thumb. I’m not 18 and it has been three years, not months, since I had to ask permission to go to the bathroom. But what this quote means to me is that people expect you to turn 18 and have your whole life figured out. You’re an adult now and you have to know what you want to do in your life.

I witnessed this kind of conversation on Facebook last week when my boyfriend posted his GoFundMe he set up to raise money to attend the Fire Science Academy at SCTI. People were questioning his motives and his decisions: why did he choose such an expensive school when there are cheaper ones nearby? Why didn’t he wait to find out if he would ever leave Florida before earning a state certification? Why wouldn’t he move to the other coast for school if he thought he might end up there?

The answer to all of those questions is the same, and it is quite simple: because he doesn’t know where life will take him. And how can you expect him to know that? People don’t expect to be able to read the future, but they expect you to have some idea of what your twenties will be like. And those same people are also telling you that your twenties are for exploration, adventure and risks before life hits you (a mortgage, car payments, children, etc.). So which is it? Are your twenties supposed to be a roller coaster you jump on and ride wherever it takes you or are you supposed to plan every single move and do everything in your power to have answers to everyone’s questions?

How does this relate to my summer internship? Because I don’t know where I will end up after. I’ve been applying and interviewing for weeks and yet I am still not sure where I will be. I am the kind of person who likes to know how things will end up. I like to have a plan. I am constantly reevaluating my life–just ask my mom–she has sat through many I-need-to-figure-out-my-life  conversations.

I would love, more than anything, to stay at Boca Raton Magazine, but they are fully staffed right now. I can honestly say I have had the best internship experience with them. I learned so much about magazine publishing and hope to bring those skills to a publication in Florida. I still have two weeks left, which seems too crazy to be true, but I am going to make the most out of them.

I hope the next time I write that I have something career-related to update on. But for now, I am going to figure out what my twenties mean to me. I don’t want to look back at this decade and wonder what I was doing.

“Enjoy yourself. That’s what your 20s are for. Your 30s are to learn the lessons. Your 40s are to pay for the drinks.” – Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City